The Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man/Women

TAKE IT AND SPREAD IT AS YOU PLEASE! YOU DON'T HAVE TO ASK.
Once you knowor suspect if your man is cheating, make sure you have a plan of action that you will take after you accuse him. You need to decide whether it’s time for you to move on or whether this relationship may be worth a second chance. Once you suspect or are 100% sure he is cheating take care of yourself there are a lot of STDs out there and never assume they won't happen to you.
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Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man
From http://www.WomanSavers.com
A cheating man can only hide his cheating ways for so long before he gets caught. The longer a man cheats, the higher probability he will get caught. In this busy day and age, it is difficult to carry on more than one relationship. However, with inventions like the internet, accessibility to willing partners has become easier than ever. There are various ways of how to tell if your man is cheating. We have listed the top 10 signs of a cheating man below. How to know if your man is cheating? If your man exhibits any of the below, it may be time to take a closer look.
1. Spends less time with you.
A cheating man must use the excuse of working long hours, extra meetings and dinners or other unexplained functions so he will have time with his "other" woman.
2. Isn’t as affectionate any more. Your sex life is almost non-existent because of his other commitments. He doesn’t want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands or do many of the touchy things he used to.
3. He changes his physical appearance.
A cheating man usually starts buying new clothes, gets a new hair style or begins working out because he wants to be attractive to the other woman in his life besides you.
4. Car changes.
The passenger seat in the car has been moved or there is an unknown hair on the car seat. Perhaps the radio station is on an irregular station because that’s what she likes.
5. Change in temperament.
A cheating man becomes more short-tempered because of the guilty feelings as a result of the infidelity. Things that usually did not bother them suddenly start bothering them.
6. A new fragrance.
A cheating man may smell of perfume, smoke or alcohol, especially if he hasn’t had time to change them from meeting with her.
7. Behavioral changes. A cheating man frequently becomes defensive when questioned about his whereabouts. He may turn it around to accuse you of being insecure, possessive or snoopy.
8. Cell phone changes.
A cheating man can not leave his telephone turned on when with you because his other woman may phone him. He may leave the room to have a telephone conversation or say strange things after he picks up a message from his lover. Watch for calls in the middle of the night. If you have access to his telephone bill, check it closely. Look for repeated unknown numbers, times and durations.
9. Computer usage changes.
A cheating man may utilize a computer to seek out partners or communicate with. If your man is on his computer for long periods of time at night and he closes the door so you won’t see him, he may be communicating or chatting with his love interest.
10. Changes in spending habits.
You can tell if your man is cheating if he is suddenly always broke. He’s broke because he is spending all of his money on the other woman. Watch as to whether he is paying with cash and making more frequent ATM withdrawals to cover his paper trail. Check any receipts, bills or stubs that you may have access to.

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PHYSICAL APPEARANCE -
A man having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will want to make himself more attractive. He will begin to enhance his appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in his wardrobe, his grooming, his body, and his personal hygiene. If he embarks on a drastic self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for you. More than likely he’s trying to attract or impress someone else.
HOW HE RELATES TO YOU -
The way your husband relates to you can provide many telltale signs. His involvement with another woman will cause him to treat you differently -- even on a subconscious level. This is one of those areas where a wife can pick up telltale signs that a private investigator might otherwise overlook.
CONVERSATIONAL CLUES -
What your husband chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you to his involvement in an extramarital affair. He may mention new people, places and things, while the people, places and things he normally talks about are no longer a part of his conversation. Even his tone of voice can be an important telltale sign.
WORK HABITS -
Work is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home. Men often use their jobs as a cover for extramarital affairs. Your husband’s work habits will undoubtedly change as his affair unfolds. Be on the lookout work-related telltale signs.
DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR -
We are all creatures of habit. We all have a routine that we usually follow each day. A man who is cheating will display changes of some kind in his normal patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to any deviations in your husband’s daily routine. These deviations are telltale signs.
FINANCIAL AFFAIRS -
Affairs cost money. If your husband has a lover, he’ll want to wine her, dine her, entertain her and buy her occasional gifts. No matter how carefully he tries to cover his tracks, sooner or later this will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for financial telltale signs.
TRAVEL -
Your husband may not always be traveling for legitimate reasons. Even if he is, he may decide to combine business with a little pleasure. Travel affords an unfaithful husband a unique opportunity to cheat away from prying eyes.
PERSONALITY OR BEHAVIORAL CHANGES -
Be alert for changes in your husband’s attitude, personality or behavior. Whether they are drastic or subtle, changes of this type are often an indication of infidelity.
ABSENCES -
Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. Since there are only 24 hours in a day, your husband’s absences will become increasingly more frequent as he tries to steal time from other activities so he can be with his lover.
TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS -
Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone. These telltale signs are relatively easy to find. Many men take the risk of calling their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home. Many wives (like me) discover their husband’s infidelity either directly or indirectly by the telephone.
CAR CLUES -
Your husband’s (or the family) car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the tire well, the underside of the visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information.
SEX -
Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect your husband of having an affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk for HIV/AIDS, herpes or some other sexually transmitted disease.
EATING HABITS -
This is an area that wives usually overlook when checking for telltale signs. But your husband’s eating habits can be influenced or affected by his lover. Without even realizing it, he may develop a preference for the type of food she eats, the way she likes her food prepared or the kind of restaurants in which she likes to eat. These are the types of telltale signs it would never occur to him to conceal.
SMELLS AND TASTES -
Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. You may be oblivious to it until it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if your husband smells or tastes "different," or if something in your home or car just doesn’t smell "right." It may warrant closer investigation.
INVASION OF YOUR HOME -
It's not uncommon for a man who's cheating to invite his lover to his home. When this happens, it’s not unheard of for lovers to leave personal items behind--sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting wife to find. You will usually find evidence in your bedroom or bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you were away. Telltale signs may turn up in other areas of your home, as well.
GIFTS -
Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts are usually exchanged. During the holidays and various other times throughout the year, you may find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
COMPUTER USE -
It’s common these days for a cheating husband to use e-mail to communicate with his lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an indication of his involvement in an online or cyber affair. Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve sexual contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.
CELL PHONES AND PAGERS/BEEPERS -
Today’s technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat on his wife. But it’s also easier for a husband to get caught while trying to make contact or stay in touch with his lover.
PHYSICAL EVIDENCE -
Many times there’s physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check your husband’s wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser drawers, the wastepaper basket, his closet shelves, the floor in the back of his closet, the garage, his study, filing cabinets, his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can think of. Keep your eyes open. You’ll be surprised at what you can find.
HIS BEHAVIOR AROUND OTHER WOMEN -
Studies show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone he already knows—someone he comes in contact with on a regular basis – a neighbor, a coworker, a family friend or business associate. If you’re observant, you may be able to determine the identity of your husband’s lover by the way he behaves in her presence, or by how she behaves around him.
ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES -
Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been up to by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An accidental slip-up on his part or on the part of someone else can clue you in to what’s been happening behind your back.

Dealing With Confrontation in Cheating - How to Approach a Cheating Spouse
Never confront your cheating wife or partner without solid evidence of cheating - without solid evidence, your cheating spouse is going to react by:
Total denial -- simply refusing to accept your accusations or allegations of having being cheating on you;
He / she will act outraged at you for having suggested such a thing ;
He / she may in turn accuse you of cheating , lying or even stealing;
Your cheating wife or husband will start acting like a victim of wrongful accusations or even marital violence -- may start crying or acting angry trying to become manipulative of your emotions;
He/she will accuse you of being suspicious, jealous, spying on them, making them feel like someone is watching them or stalking them all the time, making them feel miserable or vulnerable;
He / she will accuse you of bringing discord into the relationship by creating lack of trust;
And now since you have already warned them of your suspicions about cheating, your wife, husband or partner is going to move fast to destroy the cheating evidence and cover up their tracks. So it will be hard to prove.
What's more, your premature confrontation will not stop the cheating behavior -- if anything, it will make them more careful to not leave any clues behind. And your husband/ wife will start finding fault with you or wrongfully picking on you or taunting you at even the slightest issue. Your cheating wife or husband or partner will start making your life miserable through emotional or psychological abusive manipulations.
How to Confront a Cheating Spouse -- At this stage, if you really feel you need to talk to your spouse about his / her cheating on you, here is how to approach it:
At the end of the day when both of you are relaxing or having a light conversation in the privacy of your own home, and when your partner least expects it, totally casually say something like (make sure to use your own friend's/ co-worker's particulars -- be sure that your husband/wife does not know this person well):
"Hey, do you know Jake - at my work - his girlfriend is cheating on him. Poor guy he is devastated. He was asking me for advice on how to handle her cheating behavior. What do you think I should tell him?"
Then watch your partner's reaction closely.
If he/she is innocent -- he /she will want to talk more about this fictitious cheating story about 'Jake' -- may ask questions -- want to know more-- and may even give some honest advise about how 'Jake' can deal with cheating. With questions like: "Oh really, how does he know for sure she is cheating."
On the other hand, if your wife/husband or lover is guilty of being a cheat ;
His/her heart is going to 'miss a beat' at the mere mention of the word 'cheating'... this will show up as a 'drop in facial expression or paling of the face'... You are going to notice it.
And it may be followed by: "Honey, Why do we need to get involved in other people's lives" -- There may be a total reluctance to discuss the issue of cheating any further,
He / she may avoid eye contact with you or look away quickly --
Or your husband or wife might get angry or excited and he / she may become frigid and avoid any further intimacy with you at that time.
But what if your husband , wife or partner are good at hiding their emotions -- they are able to maintain a 'straight face' or appear 'unruffled' in all kinds of situations -- in this case, you will simply be raising a red flag in his/her mind that you know that he /she is cheating on you. -- this may make them more careful in the future -- and make it difficult for you to catch him or her.
So it's best to find the cheating evidence first.
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What a week...already

Yeah, so I know that its only Tuesday, but there has been a lot that has been going on. Different things, and Im not so sure where I want to start. If this ends up being long, Im sorry but I havent written here in a little, and Jaylin is getting mad lol.

So, today my mommie and I went to Meijer. We went and got all of our fixings for the Thanksgiving dinners that we are having. Then we also found the girls Christmas dresses! They were a little expensive, and we wouldnt be able to afford them, so my mommie bought them for me :) The girls are going to look sooo cute when we get our holiday pictures taken on Saturday. I still have to get them their black dress shoes, and tights, but I will be getting those tomorrow before Fermin has to go to work. I got Jasmin's snow boots as well. God, they were $30, but let me tell you they were worth it. They are the Disney Princesses and they light up. When we got to the car, my mom was putting them in the car, and she asked me what did I get that was lighting up...and I told her those were the boots lol.

So Fermin claimed the other day that Fridays was going to be open on Christmas, and that he had to work. I told one of my friends online, and she along with me didnt think that sounded right. Sorry but what resturant is open on Chrismtas. So she called Fridays for me, and asked them if they are going to be open on Christmas, and of course they arent. So when he got home from working at Bahama I confronted him, and he was like 'how do you know' and I told him that I called and he got really mad. Hes like, 'well I was suppose to do the inventory' and I told him to stop lying because I know that it isnt true. They wouldnt have deliviers on Chrismtas if the resturant isnt open. So hes lying to me, and trying to hide something.

Then his 'boss' called the other day and talked to him about it, and asked if they were going to open, and he told Fermin that they were never going to open. I dont know if hes trying to mess with my head or what....but Im getting really fed up with all these games that hes playing. My gut is telling me that hes cheating on me, and part of me doesnt want to believe it. I have a few reasons to think that he is because 1. we left the same time last week, I went to Costco, and he was suppose to go to work, and he went the other way away from his work, and turned onto a street with all apartments, and I confronted him about it. He said that he was going to the bakery. Yeah okay I dont believe you. 2. when he was coming home one day, he came a way that we never go, its out of our way. So I asked him about it, and he said 'I just wanted to look at the other apartments' and I asked him why and all he said was 'because I wanted to.'

I dont know about you, but it sounds really fishy to me.

Cassandra had her checkup on Friday, and she gained just over 2 pounds in 5 weeks! Shes now 10lbs, 4 oz. I knew that she was getting bigger. She had a shot too, and I hate it when they do that because I hate seeing one of my girls cry. Although Jasmins getting better at it.
Okay, so I think that its all I feel like writting. It didnt turn out as long as I thought that it did, but I guess that its a good thing because otherwise I might have written a book about this.

God Bless

I love it when people invite themselves over, then mess up my house

So everything was going great today, other than the fact that the Bears lost, but that really wasnt a surprise. Fermin got home early today, which scared the crap outta me, because hes never home before 8pm, and here he was walking in at 5:30, I was really happy...but within 5 minutes I was pissed.
He told me that his sister and her family was going over. They kindly invited themseves. Like seriously...what the fuck? I hate it when people do that. Its not their house, they can not just come over whenever they feel like it seriously. So I told him no, and he gets all made asking why. I tell him because the stay here til after midnight, and I dont approve. But thats just me. I dont think that a 4 year old, and an 8 year old need to be out past midnight.
So I spent all day cleaning the house making it look nice and his niece and nephew within 20 minutes have turned my house upside down. Well all I know is that Im not going to spend all night or all day tomorrow cleaning. They better clean it up before they go, or Imma going to be pissed. You just dont go to someones house, and mess it up if looks all nice and picked up. But thats just me, and they dont have any respectfor my things. I dont find it nice either that they give me 20 minutes before they get here either...like seriously since when have they live here....
I love it how none of them even come and say hi to me. Its okay they dont like me, and I dont like them so whatever, its just better this way. They always talk in spanish and act like Im not there when Im out there so whats the point of me sitting out there if Im just ignored. So Im just sitting in my room trying to stay cool, calm, and collective venting on here, and to my mom on the phone.
Its not like I can blame Jasmin for the mess, because she doesnt take everything out and dump the buckets. I swear Im going to start screaming at people. And everyone knows...once Im pissed and I start yelling at me, then I dont stop. And Im doing my best to hold my cool, but its getting really hard to just sit here and listen to what is going on. I swear Im going to chuck something at peoples heads soon...seriously.
Alright Im done, I cant hold it in any longer, people other than Jasmin are going to get bitched at.

Honestly, What Am I Doing Wrong?

Has things ever happened in your life, and you just want to know what you did wrong? Ive been asking myself that question alot today. Things just dont seem to be the way that they use to be. I miss those old days, and I want them back but I dont think that is ever going to happen, and thats something that Im just going to have to deal with.

Fermin and I have been fighting a lot...it seems like over everything these days. I think that its best that we seperate, even though he doesnt want to leave because of the girls, so we are going to be living together, but not offically together for right now. Mainly for the girls, but also because Im not working right now and I wouldnt be able to find a place on my own if Im not working. Im hoping that we can work things out, but who knows. He even told me today that hes not happy with me anymore, and that hes only still here because of the girls. Wow gee thanks, that just makes me so much better about myself. We still have to figure out sleeping arrangments, since we arent together I just cant sleep in the same bed as him. It wont feel right to me. Ill prolly let him have the bed though because 1. its his bed,2. we have a pull out on the couch and, 3. if he brings another girl home, he can kindly close the door, and I wont know what in Gods name is going on in there, and the girls wont have to watch it all day.

I just dont know what I did wrong. He always calls me lazy and everything, but excuse me I dont think staying home all day taking care of a 16 month old and a newborn is lazy. Yes, I might be online for what seems like all day, but Im not actually sitting infront of the coumpter 24/7. I cant Jasmins too crazy, and Cassandra ug shes just always cranky and drives me nuts. Maybe its because I think that hes cheating on me. Wouldnt you if he tells you that hes going to be home at a certain time, and then he gets home.....2 hours after the time he tells you. Then when I ask he gets all mean about it.

Not to mention hes getting on my butt about losing all this baby weight. Seriously I think that men should get pregnant, so that they can see that its NOT that easy to lose all the baby weight. I tell him Im trying and that its not easy...his response.....yes it is, you just have to watch what your eating. Men, I swear.

Well, thats it, thats all, Im done.

Congrats To Mr. Obama

First and formost I would like to Congratulate Mr. Obama for winning the Presidency. Me personally I voted for him for many different reasons. I believe that hes going to change this country, and make it for the better. Bush has been in the office for 8 years, and personally I dont see anything really that he has done well for his country, but maybe thats just me. He has put this country in millions of dollars in debt, and then sent us off to some war. Remember here, two wrongs dont make a right.....but maybe thats just how I see things.

Either way...even if John Mccain would have won, he is going to have a tough road to fix.

So I entered Jasmin into a baby contest. I need to start a college funds for the girls, and Im hoping that this might help a little bit...or least get it started. The winner gets a prize of $2500, which these days is a nice sum of money if you ask me.
https://www.greatamericanphotocontest.com/voter1/index.aspx?referid=EmailFriends&p=839742&x=.bmp
Thats the link that you want to click to vote for her. Once you vote, make sure that you check your email, and hit the confirmation link for your vote to count. Please pass that link on to everyone that you know, so that Jasmin will win, and mommy can get a college fund started. Next month I plan on putting a picture with both the girls in there.

Sometimes I wonder if Im ever going to lose this baby weight. Honestly its driving me nuts because Im doing everything possible to do this, but the weight just isnt coming off, and Im running out of ideas to help me lose this weight. If you have any suggestions let me know, Im open for some.

Im a little upset that California decided to make gay marriage illegal again. Why make the gays suffer just because they are into the same sex? I dont see it fair that a straight couple can go to a church and get married, but if a gay couple goes...they basically get turned down. How is that letting everyone go to their consitutional rights, and everything like that. If we should be able to live a happy married life, then I think that they gay community should have that same option. As long as they are happy, why the heck should anyone care if they are gay or straight?? Honestly...I think that they are discriminating agaist the gay community, and it drives me nuts. Mainly because my best friend is gay, and she is in a great realtionship, with a great girl but they cant get married even though they are happy, and everything for the simple reason that they are gay.
Honestly, that bugs the crap out me...they need to legalize gay marriage and rights, its not fair to them.

Well, thats about all know. Im kinda falling asleep here at the laptop. Heck at least Im now remembering to update this thing unlike with the old one, when I updated it once every blue moon.

Okay, so all day today I have seen Christmas commerials. Am I the only one, or are you all seeing these too?

Update: October 28th, 2008

So I had to make a new blogspot because my other one got all messed up. Right now things are going pretty well. I finally gave birth to my second baby girl, on October 11th, 2008. It feels really weird not to be pregnant anymore, and thats going to be something that Im going to have to get use to. I told Fermin that I dont want to get pregnant again for a few years. He wasnt too happy. He wanted me to get pregnant again within a year, and I told him that there is NO way that thats going to happen.
I might be getting a modeling job. I was in contact with an angency yesterday. He says that he doesnt do full figured models, but he has a friend who uses them sometimes, and the next time that he needs one, hes going to let me know. He told me that I have a very modelie (is that even a word lol) face, and thats what makes the money. That made me kinda excited.
The one thing that I wish was that Fermin would help me around here more, and not to get on my case about every little fricken thing. Its starting to piss me off and make me really mad. But whatever, hes going to be how he wants to be, and theres nothing that I can do about it.
Im hoping to keep this thing pretty updated, unlike my old one. But who knows. At least I know have somewhere where I can sit and just vent instead of taking everything out on myself.